It’s sunday morning and I was going through my Facebook newsfeed when I saw the above video. I kinda got struck by its message because you can say, I pledge guilty haha.
Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Youtube, Ask.fm… I have’em all! My Instagram, Tumblr and Ask.fm is connected to my Facebook and Twitter account. I even have -two- Twitter account. A public and a private one. Whenever I am bored the first thing I would do is check my Facebook -> Twitter -> Tumblr -> Instagram. If Facebook doesn’t have anything new (because, duh, after 20 minutes or so, there just won’t be too much new stuff to see?), I would jump to Twitter and be stuck there by surfing around the different accounts just to keep myself busy.
Of course I am well aware, that looking at your screen might seem very antisocial, especially when you are in a larger group, or even just amongst your friends, but many people (including me) must have forgotten how to keep themselves busy except for looking at their phone. There are times when I am talking to a friend and get a bit irritated when this friend is looking down at their screen and just nodding their heads to show me that they are listening while scrolling through their Facebook newsfeed or Twitter timeline. Especially when they’re like ‘Oh haha look at this!’ while showing me their phone, after I have finished talking. Some people disagree with the ‘Technology is dooming us socially’ quote, because they believe, that those Social Media greatly helped us to socialize much faster than we could before. At some point, it might be true, but everything must be limited to a certain amount and importance.
There was a time, when I started writing every single thought I had on Twitter, while being on the train or wherever I was. It was literally a brain striptease as I would also write down my emotions when being way to emotional, which I tried to lessen and then stop all together a few months back with the thought of, instead bringing people’s mood down by being emo, only giving them positive things to enlighten their mood. Sometimes you just get too caught up with all those social media’s and you don’t even realize it.
Me being in my semester abroad right now, I have started a ‘project’ to upload a picture per day, so that I can look back at those memories in the future and keep my family and friends updated. But I realized that I could just write/post those memories inside my diary, which I am trying to maintain right now anyways, or send my family/friends those pictures personally. Why do I have to show the whole world my life? What do I talk about when I get back without the other people being like ‘Oh yeah I saw it on your Instagram/Facebook!’. The “We are utmost happy with an experience we share. But is it the same if no one is there? Be there for your friends, and they will be there too, but no one will be, if a group message will do.’ quote pretty much sums it all.
As long as you do not ‘rape’ your social media’s but only use it for its purpose, which is communicating with friends, whom you do not have the opportunity to meet in person, you will be able to experience your life in REAL with the people around you, and not with those who you don’t even know.
“Being alone isn’t the problem, let me just emphasize, you read a book, paint a picture or do some exercise, you’re being productive and present [..] you’re being awake and attentive and putting your time to good use, so when you’re in public and you start feeling alone, put your hands behind your head and step away from the phone.”
Once again it’s easier said, than done, but it’s worth a try, if you think about what you will be able to experience by appreciating your surrounding and not the display of your phone.